Rape -The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts. This word had been in the news a lot lately, due to the instances of the same. I chose not to blog about then, because that would just be following the trend. I wanted to talk about it when everything cooled down and suddenly no one really cares about it.
When a few sad incidences of rape took place in the capital city of India, everyone got emotional and a little too concerned about this particular issue. We all saw protests here, candle marches there, and what not! Some of us were even a part of those protests/candle marches. But as soon as the news faded away, people stopped talking about it and got back to their normal lives. Is that where your concern ends? I am pretty sure that more than half of the guys who actually felt deeply about this issue and went for these protests are the ones who actually stalk girls and eve tease them. When we see a girl getting eve teased, what do we actually do? We just stand and stare. Some even laugh about it. We don’t do anything about it normally, but when it becomes a huge deal, we all become saints and act like we have always been the ones who feel this issue needs to be dealt with and that it’s high time. And the cherry on top of the cake – blaming it all on the government. “The government does nothing.” “The government is useless.” “Can’t they sentence the criminals to death already?” These are just a few phrases which are heard whenever something huge happens. I know the government is partly at fault, but how can anyone blame them for everything? They are not the ones who raped those girls, it is the citizens of this country who did so. It is our fault, not theirs. And why does raping become such a big deal only when it’s in the news? There are cases of rape almost everyday. Why aren’t we concerned about it everyday? Why don’t we act on it everyday? Why don’t we do things to stop it everyday? Who knows, that girl could have been someone related to you. Could you take it if something like that happened to someone close to you? I bet not.
Raping is not going to stop by just going for candle marches, protesting about the same, and sitting at home, feelings sorry for those girls. Actions need to come into play. When you see a girl getting eve teased, you go up to the person doing this and you tell him to stop. When you see a girl in a vulnerable position, you go and help her out. The system is not going to change until and unless we change ourself. The change has to come from within. In order to change the mindset of the society, you need to change yourself. When you find a girl highly intoxicated, your intention should not be to take advantage of her, but to help her out in every possible way. You can’t expect everything to change within a fortnight, it will surely take time, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t even try. As rightly said by Margaret Mead, “A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”